A lot of the ‘top list’ type psychology articles (like ‘10 best ways to do sth‘ or ‘6 biggest fears of teenagers‘ etc.) are often so obvious that reading them is just like listening to Your own, well known thoughts. On the one side that means they are true, but on the other – they are just not interesting. Unlike this one – that one has really spoke out to me – it is very true! I am impressed :)
It is about touching somebody’s arm with Your hand for a while (about 1 second) and what You can achieve by doing it. Very simple, however very meaningful.
This is a simple and tricky way to achieve what You want while talking with somebody. If You do it – You’ve got him. He is then more likely to do what You ask him for (or even give You some extra reward).
What You can achieve?
Arm touch is better way for waitress to get bigger tip than just writing big ‘Thank You’ and drawing some flowers on the check. I am sure that this would encourage me to tip more generously. I also believe that touching some stranger in order to ask for something will gather his empathy and encourage him to help You.
Other effects are emphasizing somebody’s position or power over person being touched, and various reactions on a touch during dates – it depends on who touches and who is being touched :) Men touched are misinterpreting nonsexual touch as a show of sexual interest. While women are more likely to share their phone number with a stranger.
There was also research done in Poland. It showed up that reaction on the touch depends on a culture and Poles are different. Polish men are reacting badly for a touch of another male. Polish women are reacting normally. It is then not a good idea to touch a man who is buying a car from You. You won’t sell it :)
This is true for me!
Unlike Poland, in France – touching potential customers arm will help. During my recent visit in Paris on a conference, watching demonstrations, I was touched twice on my arm by two French presenters. I didn’t care about it then, but after reading this article i realized that these were the two, out of three demonstrations that I liked the most! (Out of 15 visited) The touch is surely working!
Although this is not easy for me to use touch with strangers – it is worth trying. Touching somebody requires self-confidence and is not just to do it with everybody You see. It has to be done carefully as it can be misinterpreted :)
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